6 Breakup Recovery Tips

Break ups are hard - It's never easy to walk away from a relationship emotionally unhurt. However I hope these 6 tips can help you recover from your break up asap!  Mending the heart can be fast or it can  seem to take forever, but by with these  6 tips, you should be on your merry way to a speedy break up recovery.

Accept - Accept that your relationship is over and give yourself the green light to move on. Take a minute every day to look in the mirror and say, “I’m getting over this breakup.” Does it feel dumb? Yep. Does it work? Yes ma’am. By affirming out loud, we reinforce our intentions on the subconscious level. 

Indulge - When in a relationship, we often don’t indulge our personal spending habits.  We tend to spend our focus on our partners.  Now that you are broken up, indulge upon yourself a bit.  By yourself some new clothes and items for yourself that you’ve been refraining from purchasing while in the relationship with your ex.  Take an interest in personal fitness as well.  Personal fitness will help you feel better about your “new” self and it will help take your mind off of the pain and hurt caused by your ex. 

Set a Deadline - Breakups are hard. Things didn’t turn out the way you expected and its okay to be sad/angry/upset. Give yourself a couple of days or a week to feel the pain. Eat ice cream, have a good cry, stay in bed watching The Wonder Years in its entirety. But once you hit that deadline, time to get in gear. 

Get up! - Go to the gym, blast some Lady Gaga (Marry the Night) and empower yourself. You can do this! Endorphins are effective and jogging even 20 minutes a day is enough to keep you feeling positive. And sticking to a work out structure can give you a feeling of control over your life. 

Socialize - Going out may be the last thing you want to do with a broken heart. Definitely avoid any clubs or dives. Get some girlfriends, get made up and head to the nearest gay bar. It’s hard to feel like you’ll never find love again with 10 sassy men screaming about how fabulous you are. 

Do you - Make a list of everything you want to do in your life no matter how big or small. Could you start on something now? Hip Hop dance class? Book club? Knitting? Fill up your time with projects you’re genuinely interested in. Studies show that focusing our time and energy tends to make people happier. Whereas daydreaming leads to dissatisfaction.

 If you apply these tips, your former lover will (I believe in miracles) remain indifferent to your actions. However, more often than not, you will start feeling considerably better without them.  The best advice for the average person who is recently recovering from a break up is to NOT go back to the person for another round of pain and hurt.  Walk away and find someone else.  Start with a clean slate and begin your new life without the ex.


Follow your heart - If you want to beg them to come back to you, go for it ... It has worked for some people in the past.


Good Luck!